Comments for TheTeenDoc.com http://theteendoc.com Changing the World One Teen at a Time Wed, 08 Feb 2012 09:33:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Your Teen, Your Favorite Critic by Naomi http://theteendoc.com/parenting/communication/your-teen-your-favorite-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-59298 Naomi Wed, 08 Feb 2012 09:33:38 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3718#comment-59298 Yes stay grounded and dont take the bad stuff personally and take the good stuff with good intention and enjoy it. Gtreat advice. Yes stay grounded and dont take the bad stuff personally and take the good stuff with good intention and enjoy it. Gtreat advice.

]]> Comment on Is It A Gay Crush? by teendoc http://theteendoc.com/sexual-health/is-it-a-gay-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-59063 teendoc Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:08:21 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3410#comment-59063 Wow! Thank you for taking the time and for such an amazing show of patience and love you are showing your teen. Dr. O Wow! Thank you for taking the time and for such an amazing show of patience and love you are showing your teen.

Dr. O

]]> Comment on Is It A Gay Crush? by Michele http://theteendoc.com/sexual-health/is-it-a-gay-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-58094 Michele Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:07:21 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3410#comment-58094 As a word of support and empathy: My son, 15, seems convinced he, too, is "gay". HE and I have a very open line of communication...to the point that he will cover his face with a pillow if he feels he has to in order to discuss an issue with me. However, I always have that pillow at the ready, and so far we've gotten thru every topic to closure - even if it is to agree to let it go for now. First of all I have been very clear with my son that, considering the seriousness of a gender-specific life choice this is, there MUST be a true choice...whether now or later. To that end we have discussed bi-sexual - as a CHOICE - very thoroughly. My insistence here is that to be bi-sexual, by it's very definition, via dictionary, the gay community, and any person who considers him/herself bi-sexual denotes a CHOICE. If one can be physically and/or romantically attracted to another regardless of gender, then one would have WANT to court the kind of pain, discomfort, stares, harrassment, and worse that comes with making a same-gender romantic choice. We both, as do many, many other TRULY GAY persons, agree that unless you are truly attracted to only the same sex then it would be a matter of self-control and common sense to avoid that like gender and situations that would put one at harms way. My comparison was such as avoiding the "slut" or avoiding the "drug dealer" or other troublemaker....sure it may be inticing, pique your curiosity, be fun, etc., but why would you go there? Further, most gay/lesbian people point out with regularity that to be bi-sexual denotes a choice that gay/lesbian people just do not have. I think some of my son's beliefs are tied to "shock-value" - both of adults and peers, trying the "acceptance" mores - how open, really, are my friends, parents, etc, and as the Teen Doc and others point out, it is not at all uncommon for adolsescents to have crushes at this age. Especially when sex and other other topics have been so openly discussed. Sometimes I think all the 'great communication' between the (lucky?)parents and teens encourages our kids to 'push' the envelope farther than they would without such easy communication and keep them at a lower maturation level - by choice. My son and a few other kids I know whose parents have highly 'open' communication seem to be in this category...and only them. The parents who we feel could and should have been more open and communicative w/their kids don't seem to have these issues. In fact, their kids seem to take the middle road, and can't wait to get out on their own - with their opposite sex girl/boyfriends and less than stellar self-expectations...they do,the parents and children, nonetheless, seem happy! God Bless. Keeping you in my prayers! m As a word of support and empathy: My son, 15, seems convinced he, too, is “gay”. HE and I have a very open line of communication…to the point that he will cover his face with a pillow if he feels he has to in order to discuss an issue with me. However, I always have that pillow at the ready, and so far we’ve gotten thru every topic to closure – even if it is to agree to let it go for now. First of all I have been very clear with my son that, considering the seriousness of a gender-specific life choice this is, there MUST be a true choice…whether now or later. To that end we have discussed bi-sexual – as a CHOICE – very thoroughly. My insistence here is that to be bi-sexual, by it’s very definition, via dictionary, the gay community, and any person who considers him/herself bi-sexual denotes a CHOICE. If one can be physically and/or romantically attracted to another regardless of gender, then one would have WANT to court the kind of pain, discomfort, stares, harrassment, and worse that comes with making a same-gender romantic choice. We both, as do many, many other TRULY GAY persons, agree that unless you are truly attracted to only the same sex then it would be a matter of self-control and common sense to avoid that like gender and situations that would put one at harms way. My comparison was such as avoiding the “slut” or avoiding the “drug dealer” or other troublemaker….sure it may be inticing, pique your curiosity, be fun, etc., but why would you go there? Further, most gay/lesbian people point out with regularity that to be bi-sexual denotes a choice that gay/lesbian people just do not have. I think some of my son’s beliefs are tied to “shock-value” – both of adults and peers, trying the “acceptance” mores – how open, really, are my friends, parents, etc, and as the Teen Doc and others point out, it is not at all uncommon for adolsescents to have crushes at this age. Especially when sex and other other topics have been so openly discussed. Sometimes I think all the ‘great communication’ between the (lucky?)parents and teens encourages our kids to ‘push’ the envelope farther than they would without such easy communication and keep them at a lower maturation level – by choice. My son and a few other kids I know whose parents have highly ‘open’ communication seem to be in this category…and only them. The parents who we feel could and should have been more open and communicative w/their kids don’t seem to have these issues. In fact, their kids seem to take the middle road, and can’t wait to get out on their own – with their opposite sex girl/boyfriends and less than stellar self-expectations…they do,the parents and children, nonetheless, seem happy! God Bless. Keeping you in my prayers! m

]]> Comment on Teen Dating Rules by Naomi http://theteendoc.com/sexual-health/teen-dating-rules/comment-page-1/#comment-58068 Naomi Thu, 02 Feb 2012 16:42:17 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3706#comment-58068 Great advice. I like the 3 you give. Now I am going to think of the other two..... Great advice. I like the 3 you give. Now I am going to think of the other two…..

]]> Comment on 4 Questions Your Dating Teen Should Know by Teen Bad Romance Habits | TheTeenDoc.com http://theteendoc.com/sexual-health/4-questions-your-dating-teen-should-know/comment-page-1/#comment-57863 Teen Bad Romance Habits | TheTeenDoc.com Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:00:13 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=1844#comment-57863 [...] some great tools on how to break bad habits you can check out the post on Frog n Prince. Be Sociable, Share! TweetRelated [...] [...] some great tools on how to break bad habits you can check out the post on Frog n Prince. Be Sociable, Share! TweetRelated [...]

]]> Comment on Audio Gift by Sarah http://theteendoc.com/audio-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-57265 Sarah Mon, 30 Jan 2012 01:04:28 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3546#comment-57265 AWESOME Dr. O! This is awesome! AWESOME Dr. O! This is awesome!

]]> Comment on A Controlling Teen by Naomi http://theteendoc.com/parenting/a-controlling-teen/comment-page-1/#comment-56853 Naomi Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:10:28 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3680#comment-56853 An interesting blog as I was a very bossy teen and loved to be in control but on reflection I probably wanted my parents to control me more or maybe I was just a rebel. An interesting blog as I was a very bossy teen and loved to be in control but on reflection I probably wanted my parents to control me more or maybe I was just a rebel.

]]> Comment on A Controlling Teen by Jean Tracy, MSS http://theteendoc.com/parenting/a-controlling-teen/comment-page-1/#comment-56776 Jean Tracy, MSS Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:30:01 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3680#comment-56776 I love how you got right to the point. Parents do need a strong backbone if their tweens and teens are running the house. Thanks for your post. May I repost it in my blog at http://www.ParentingSkillsBlog.com ? If so I'd like a head photo to promote you. Jean Tracy, MSS I love how you got right to the point. Parents do need a strong backbone if their tweens and teens are running the house. Thanks for your post.

May I repost it in my blog at http://www.ParentingSkillsBlog.com ? If so I’d like a head photo to promote you.

Jean Tracy, MSS

]]> Comment on Your Teen Needs Help by Teen Help http://theteendoc.com/parenting/your-teen-needs-help/comment-page-1/#comment-56765 Teen Help Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:21:52 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3654#comment-56765 This is SO true! It's a crazy world we live in today and our teens are especially in a fragile and insecure environment so everything we do as parents is of the utmost importance in shaping their lives and guiding them on the right path. This is SO true! It’s a crazy world we live in today and our teens are especially in a fragile and insecure environment so everything we do as parents is of the utmost importance in shaping their lives and guiding them on the right path.

]]> Comment on Teens Shouldn’t Have Sex by Naomi http://theteendoc.com/sexual-health/teens-shouldnt-have-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-56406 Naomi Mon, 23 Jan 2012 10:03:53 +0000 http://theteendoc.com/?p=3666#comment-56406 All teens need to know about sex and apparently this should start earlier than teens - 10 I think. It is best coming from you or a responsible adult rather than whisperings in the playground. All teens need to know about sex and apparently this should start earlier than teens – 10 I think. It is best coming from you or a responsible adult rather than whisperings in the playground.

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