In an effort to help girls and boys think outside the box in terms of what they can do with their lives and the roles they can play in the lives of others, parents have made great attempts to dismantle the gender views of the past. Still, some things are not going to change.
Girls in general will mature at a rate 1-2 years faster than boys. Some people think girls keep this advantage for the rest of their lives. However, this advantage allows girls when they become sexually attracted to someone to relate to them in that measurably mature way. Add to this a desire to relate to others through emotional connection and advanced verbal expression and a fourteen year old girl may have a 16-year-old boy beat.
This difference is the reason for a lot of heartache sometimes. It’s hard for girls to know what’s in the mind of the guy they’re attracted to. Easier if it is a same-gender attraction, but not so if the way of relating is still very distant, it’s this difference that makes it hard for girls to interpret the behaviour of boys and for boys to relate what they may be thinking, making it hard for girls to know what to think at all! Are you with me so far?
As the brain matures, boys will get better at expressing themselves, but without your support and guidance they will never match that of a same-aged girl. This is a big deal since this skill is so important in establishing and maintaining connections and relationships to others. Guys amongst guys are relatively easy because they develop a code (e.g. “My bad” instead of “I’m sorry”), but sooner or later, a guy may tell someone they love them because they actually do and at that time, they may want to find the words to say more than “well, ya know, me too.”