Do You Gossip About Your Tween?
Your tween shares with you they have a crush on this kid at school. They were a little nervous about telling you, but wanted to share what was big in their life. You all arrive at Thanksgiving dinner and Aunt Bin says, “So, I hear you have a crush.”
Do you think you’re getting any more information from your tween after this? It’s really important to maintain your teen’s privacy when they share information with you. This goes for pubertal changes and embarrassing moments at home or school too. Sure we aren’t discussing anything unsafe or mean, but the personal stuff is important to keep as their secret because they have placed their trust in you. When you betray them, it serves to remind them they should keep their business to themselves.
This is not what you want. You want your teen to have the most trust in you. You want them to share with you. You want them to come to you when something is on their mind. You don’t want them worried about you talking about them the way their peers do at school.
This is also an important life lesson about telling people’s secrets in the way of gossip. Gossip has hurt people. The type of person who gossips is not who you want your teen to model themselves after. As such, you have to be the example of what you want in your teen.
This “cute” stuff is a trial run through. Pass this test, and you may have access to the teen years when stuff can be downright ugly.
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