Don’t Bother Finding Holes In Your Teen’s Plan
Your teen calls and they are so excited about a trip or business venture or intimate partner. Meanwhile you’re listening and as you listen you start thinking, “this is not going to work.”
You may get to the point when you actually say out loud, “You’re joking right? You know that’s not going to work.” And then you proceed to ask all the questions excited brains don’t think about. You know, the practical questions.
If by now you’ve figured out your teen doesn’t want you to point out holes in their plan, you’d be right. And not only do they not want you to point out the holes, but they want you to be excited with them. Ride the wave with them. This may seem irresponsible and impractical to you who is trying to avoid pitfalls and wasted money and other resources, but to your teen this is unconditional love and support. They want your support. If they are lucky enough to get it unconditionally well then you have a teen who is on top of this world.
The truth is, the natural progression of things will reveal the holes. As a result, they will learn a new way to think about the next trip, business venture or intimate partner. They will figure out, possibly the hard way and with “wasted” resources, but the lesson will hopefully be learned and incorporated into their life’s experience. This is how they grow.
As a parent, you will have to bite your tongue and smile when you could just strangle your teen, but do bite your tongue. You are going to be so proud when your teen comes to and points out all the holes you thought up, on their own.
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