Feel Like Your Teen’s Making You Dance?
It can feel like your teen is running the show by the time you have to walk on egg shells in your own home. Actually, your teen is running the show if you are walking on egg shells in your own home. The feeling of not knowing what might disturb the calm state of things and unleash your teen’s anger is no way to live for you or your teen.
Since tip toeing rarely seems to improve the situation, it might eventually occur to you that you need help with your teen. Coddling your teen by accommodating their moody behavior is no way to handle a moody teen. If you think your teen is more antagonistic than the average teen should be, it really is time to consider that something more serious might be going on.
For some teens anger is about being angry at a decision you have made on their behalf they don’t agree with, a divorce is a great example of this. Your guilt may force you to accommodate their mood thinking you deserve this because of what has become of the family. Depressed teens will also lash out if they do not choose to handle their anger with internalizing symptoms like cutting, eating disorders, etc. These depressed teens seem easily agitated, like they are always picking a fight and can be quick to demonstrate anger over the littlest infraction on your part.
Now the average teen can sometimes seem moody or easily agitated, but these teens I am talking about may truly be provoked to anger or outbursts that cause you to fear for your own safety. This should help you distinguish between a normal teen and a depressed or hurt teen.
If you notice the outbursts are getting worse, it is time to stop tip toeing and get to stepping to a doctor’s office for help. Things are not going to improve without your teen developing better coping skills for their depression so please stop cowering to your teen and even if they say, “No” get them the help you know they need. After all, who’s the parent here? Who should really be running the show?
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