Know When to Hold It
Sometimes when your teen is very angry, not necessarily with you although they are arguing with you, you have to know when to stop talking. You have to know when to hold your tongue and admit defeat and say, “You win.”
The same way teens can be hypercritical and super self-conscious of themselves is the same way something you say can be taken as a great insult when this is the least of your intentions. Tempers can get flared very quickly and before you know it you have actually said something that could anger anyone, but especially your teen.
Before you get there with name calling, bringing up the past and insults, take the breath. Before you say something you will regret and your teen will remember, take the breath, stop talking and walk away. Now, this does not mean walk away from them while they are talking. It means, listen to the last words and let them have it.
Show them what it means to be confident enough to leave other people with their dignity in a fight. You don’t have to convince the other person you’re right. Sometimes it’s just enough to let the other person leave with their dignity. Who better to do this with than your teen.
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