A teen finds out she’s pregnant and she first decides she wants to keep and then she decides she doesn’t want to keep her baby. She goes back and forth and she is a week away from the decision no longer being hers.
When your teen doesn’t make a decision hoping that by not thinking about it the problem will just “go away” they actually make a decision to do whatever happens next. For example, the teen in the above example may seem like she’s not making a decision, but by saying nothing she is opting to “keep” the baby. She knows somewhere if she does nothing that she will be too late to have any procedure done and maybe she is too insecure or too scared to actually say she wants to keep the baby.
Problem-solving is an important skill to bestow upon your teen. They don’t have this skill naturally and need to be taught to problem-solve. It involves a lot of talents like:
1. Having confidence to think you can solve the problem
2.Thinking about the consequences of either decision.
3. Maturity to reason what do I want my life to be like five or even ten years from now and how does this decision get me there?
Problem-solving is part of what helps them decide to become sexually active in the first place, date this person or leave this person or terminate or keep a pregnancy. Help them make these decisions by allowing them to make a decision.