“Yes, I was trying to get pregnant” was her answer when asked why she didn’t use birth control. When asked why she would want to get pregnant her response was, “Because I know I can do it better than my parents.”
There is an easier way for your teen to prove their parents need to parent them better. Getting pregnant is not the answer to that question anymore than running away, but what is crystal clear as an answer is that if you are worried that your teen is having risky sex, that the answer to stopping that behavior may lie with you. If your teen is exhibiting behavior you don’t like a lot of the time, not all the time, but a lot of the time it stems from them being hurt by something they want from you. If you think about it that is a great place to start. Your teen wants something from you.
Not only do they want something from you, but often times the thing they want is free. It involves giving them more responsibility, giving them the opportunity to earn your trust, giving them the opportunity to show you they deserve your trust and respect and underneath all this is the desire they have for you to give them displays of affection that remind them of how much you love them. They act out when they don’t get it, understand from now on that translated this type of behavior means I am so hurt that you don’t think more of me that I don’t care what happens to me and I just want you to hurt as much as I do.
What your teen wants from you is priceless, free and gives them the self-esteem to feel love from you rather than their unborn child.
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