Understanding the teen brain is a great way to begin your understanding of why romance is so darn complicated sometimes.
Your teen is always looking to pick up on the hint of the “like”; Naaaw, not the social site, but from an actual warm-blooded person. They really want their social group to like them and they want that special person to like them even more. There’s a lot of prep time that goes into making sure they maximize every opportunity to be liked. Here’s the kicker, the teen brain is also primed that to question and painfully so all of their social interactions and whether or not someone is attacking them or really likes them. This means that if that person were to like them, they might not know it and if that person were to pretend to like them, they might not know it and yes, you guessed it, if that person were to use them. They wouldn’t necessarily know it.
This is complicated by the nurture that brain grew up in; a loving, violent or indifferent home and bends again for sexual orientation and gender issues. Whoa!
For you, it would be plain as the nose on their face or you might be suspicious about things, but for your teen who is learning how to decode body language and hidden language, it can be a riddle as to why this person broke up with them. Why this person cheated when they were so nice or why someone would even lie to them or about them.
Social interactions improve your teen’s ability to decode this language well. As you know, their brain growth also improves this type of communication as well. The art of the unspoken language is priceless and it can make or break a deal, but it can also make or break your teen’s heart.