Using Parenting Power For Good or Bad?
Your teen is better prepared for adulthood when they have a parent that uses their parenting power to guide, nurture and teach; In other words, using their parenting power for good instead of bad.
When you use parenting power for bad, it looks like:
•Reminding your teen of previous mistakes every time they ask for a new privilege is an example of using your parenting power for bad. Let bygones be bygones and use new privileges to assess your teen’s readiness for the next level of responsibility.
•Controlling your teen’s activities and behavior to the point of limiting your teen’s ability to make a decision on anything is another example of using your parenting power for bad. Teen’s need to be allowed to make and learn from their mistakes, they can’t do this if you are avoiding these mistakes for them.
When you use your parenting power for good, it looks like:
•Listening to your teen vent about their problem without offering a solution is an example of using your parenting power for good. When you allow your teen to come to the solution themselves, you prepare them to make other decisions when you’re not there.
•When you know your teen is anxious about being away from home and you encourage them to go on a one week trip to another state. This too is an example of using your parenting power for good. You are aware that when your teen returns they will be beaming with pride for having overcome such a huge hurdle.
Your decisions about your teen are most helpful when they encourage independence and good decision making that are sustainable when you’re not there. Parenting power understands this and thinks about the opportunity to teach independence with each parenting decision.
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