Wanna Lose 20 lbs in 2 hours?
The quick fix. Whether it’s a pill, a makeover or a change of environment, it can be misleading that your teen can change their circumstances without changing themselves. This isn’t so and for those teens that mature not realizing this important fact; they repeatedly make the same mistakes and wonder why they’re constantly the “victim.” 
Few things really change overnight; just ask any overnight success that worked twenty years to get there. Any change takes hard work and determination because change is hard and changing your circumstances is harder when it requires insight into your teen being the problem. So it may be hard to realize they have no friends because they look really mean when they don’t smile. It may be hard to realize the teachers make the conversation short because it sounds like your teen is yelling at them when they talk, or their peers don’t include them because they always look grumpy, didn’t think they would be very good company, or someone didn’t want to deal with the possibility of a fight breaking out since your teen seems to have no social skills.
If you recognize these issues in your teen, gently let them know –not by giving them a list of things that are wrong with them, but by asking them about what they have noticed. Ask them if they recognize the pattern, or do they have an idea as to what might be going on. Bring them back to their contribution if they try and blame the teacher, the popular students, or the cliques. It’s important that your teen take responsibility for their role in their circumstances. This will hopefully begin a lifetime of realizing their power in creating their circumstance rather than being a passive victim.
There is no quick fix to becoming the best person your teen can be, it just takes the experience of a lifetime and the courage to look within.
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