There are several sources telling teens to wait to have sex. Sure, it seems like there are several more forces telling them to have sex, but if you really listen there are more asking them to wait. But, why should they wait?

There was a research project, Kids and the Marshmallow Test. They asked the kids to hold off on eating the marshmallow until the researcher came back. They added, if you can wait, “I’ll give you two marshmallows.” As you can imagine, more than one kid ate the marshmallow before the researcher got down the hall. Even with the possibility of two marshmallows, the kids still couldn’t wait.
So why wait for a marshmallow or sex? This is the reason your teen really needs in order to hold off on this thing called sex. That, and a healthy dose of your support and life goals help stave off sexual debut more than any fear tactics. Let’s face it reasons like sexually transmitted disease, regret, there is no second first time and pregnancy aren’t shiny ones. Well, here is one more to try.

Wait because the very reason you feel sex is the next step vanishes once you have sex.

What does this mean? Well, when you think of teens necking in the back of a car it makes sense because this is a logical first step in sexual experimentation with another person. This level of intimacy lets your teen decide that this is someone with whom they want to do more. So they experiment by smooching. Once anyone becomes sexually active the goals change to having sex. This decreases smooching significantly. Yet, smooching is the very thing that gets them so hot and bothered that they consider becoming sexually active with someone.

My advice, stay with the smooching. Perfect the art of foreplay.

For girls its safe and meets their needs of intimacy and for guys it makes them a gentleman and romantic. Don’t think so, in the last Twilight movie, New Moon, Edward does not want to bite (have sex) with Bella, and instead protects her (virginity) valiantly despite Bella desiring Edward immensely.  The Twilight series sex is demonstrated through foreplay-like sexual expression, and this is what makes the audiences swoon. In the series of books, Ms Meyer is encouraging parents to have discussions about sex, abstinence and what constitutes sex.

So in addition to building your teen’s self-esteem and giving them academic and personal goals that maintain their focus so they are not easily distracted by sex, give them another reason to maintain their focus virgin status. Let them know you can be a great lover without intercourse and perfecting that will also help ensure more intimate relationships in the future.

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