Divorce Counseling
GET THE Divorce Counseling HELP YOU NEED
Divorce is a difficult decision for most people to make. There is not just the concern about financial security or social alliances, but there is a tendency to fear being alone. This is even when philandering is part of the reason for divorce. Divorce can be about many forms of grief about what we thought would happen and how that changed. For this reason, it is so important to have a support system that you can use to navigate considering divorce and the divorce itself. This is especially if children are involved no matter how old they are.
Are you contemplating divorce?
Divorce counseling with your partner can also help manage volatile emotions that can save you time and money when each person understands the reasons or has closure on why it is best to separate or divorce. Unlike marital counseling where the goal is to work together to strengthen the marriage, divorce counseling for one or both partners helps set goals and interact with intention to support those goals of separation or divorce rather than using the divorce to act out unresolved emotions for one or both parties.
Divorce is a serious decision that has an impact on so many people, being prepared emotionally makes this process healthier with less collateral damage.
Schedule a consultation today. When even one person of the pair is in their right emotional mind, it becomes harder to create more pain and suffering.
Worried that you should stay together for the kids? Or, worried what others will think about your inability to make your marriage work?
People are going to think I am a horrible person for leaving such a good person. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I feel like I lost myself in the relationship.
Custody concerns with children
Marriage processing
Developing who you were and are in the processing of separation
How to handle joint friends or inlaws
What do do when your spouse turns mean after agreeing to a civil divorce
Feeling like a failure
Divorce counseling can help you feel more confident about what you are feeling so that you are clear about your emotional or other needs and why you think they cannot be met in the current relationships. This obviously goes for someone you are dating as well. First time marriages in the US have a longevity of about 7-8 years and this makes the divorce rate for the country with first marriages around 50% and second marriages over 60%.
There is a relative decline in divorce in recent years because fewer people are getting married and the ones who are marrying at older ages. Due to increased financial stress and environmental footprint many adults are delaying or refusing to have children. These factors play a role in why people get together and why they stay married. This means children in first time marriages tend to make those marriages last longer. In second marriages there aren’t always those reasons to stay married.
There are emotional reasons to stay married even when you prefer not to be with the current spouse. This is especially true when we consider loneliness is a huge factor in why people stay with people they do not necessarily like while financial security is another reason people stay in relationships that may not nourish them emotionally.
This is why understanding your reasons for being in a relationship can galvanize whether you work to stay together or you move on to process the relationship. Divorce isn’t just about ending a relationship. It is about understanding who you were and how this relationship was an opportunity for emotional growth as well.
No one feels this way in the beginning but without doing this type of emotional work, patterns as I have found in so many in my clients, repeat. They find themselves in similar relationships with obvious opposites like this person does not drink, but they are on the computer all the time. Or, this person does not socialize, but they work all the time. I hardly ever see them so I still feel lonely. Therapy is about understanding the reasons for divorce and telling a divorce or break up story allows you to learn more about your inner wounds so they aren’t activated in new relationships irrespective of the outcome.
Divorce counseling also helps navigate sticky custody issues and ensures you are placing the needs of the dependent whether animal or human as a priority rather than using them to act out resentment or hostility. This is the only way something many find devastating like divorce becomes an opportunity for emotional growth.
No one believes they are going to say their break up or divorce was an opportunity for emotional growth or spiritual expansion, but it is an amazing moment when my clients do. They are able to view the experience as a rebirth rather than devastation of themselves, their social life and possible economic stability. Call to schedule your free consultation today,