How are you ever going to get a job? Have a family? How are you ever going to live without me telling you what to do?! Ahhhhhh!
Guess what? They will. Sure, that’s easy for me to say. I haven’t seen them, insert obnoxious behavior here. They will because that’s what happens when they know the buck stops with them. You know, the bird that is kicked out of the nest. If you wait for the bird to tell you when they are ready then well, Good Luck! It’s waaay too cozy in the nest.
Often times your teen wants to tell you they’re ready, but (through your desire to keep them too close or restrict what it is you want them to do to express their maturity) you let them know in no uncertain terms that you are not ready for them to grow up. That is, unless they grow up the way you want them to.
Your teen’s maturity is messy, unpredictable and chaotic. They can’t make sense of it either. All they know is that when they listen to their gut sometimes when it’s over they’re in trouble and sometimes they’ve done something like save grandma from joking at the Thanksgiving dinner. Go figure! Give your teen room to breathe so whichever part is going take over they can have some room to learn or strut.